You might have seen that recent article about how to talk to women who are wearing headphones.
Even if you haven’t seen the article, you might have seen reactions to it, because plenty of female writers have come out to condemn the advice.
To summarize, the advice is basically ‘pick a woman in public, persuade her to take her headphones off and then declare your interest in her, which she will definitely love’. This is very bad advice.
But, what is also not helpful to men are guides that say ‘women never want you to talk to them’, and ‘don’t even bother’.
You seem like a nice guy and you just want to meet someone, so you want to know how to talk to women without getting it wrong. It’s a minefield, I get it.
If you’ve read my recent piece on ‘the hot girl paradox’ then you might realize that women you’re attracted to could often feel hounded when they’re going about their business, because guys try to talk to them a lot, and it can be weird and irritating to them no matter how good the guy’s intentions.
That’s why it’s very important to use your empathy and common sense, starting by picking an appropriate setting.